The contentious wife.- A Godly Wife Pt 3
Proverbs 25:24
24 It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
What Is a Contentious Wife?
A contentious wife creates constant strife in all of her relationships. Whether they be with her husband, children, or those around her. She is critical and negative thus constantly “nagging” those who aren’t doing things or behaving the way she believes they should be.
The contentious wife is one who believes everyone else is wrong and always feels the need to have the last word. She is also manipulative, using anger, disrespect, belittling or any other means necessary to get her way because of her own insecurities. A contentious woman is unhappy with herself and projects those feelings on to others in an attempt to make herself feel important.
She Was Me
I will be completely honest here. This was me. I was the contentious wife, the contentious woman for many years. I had childhood trauma and rejection that caused me to be insecure in who I was. For a long time I was unhappy with myself and I projected that onto others. It wasn’t until our family was thrown into dealing with my husband’s addiction did God reveal to me that I was the one who needed to change.
I’ll be honest it didn’t make sense to me. When it all started all I could think was how, if he just stopped using drugs and did right, everything would be fine. God showed me that it wouldn’t do any good for Him to answer that prayer to save and deliver my husband if he was coming back to a wife who was angry about everything, disrespectful, controlling and negative.
Slap In The Face
I’ll never forget the morning the Lord slapped me in the face with that realization. We had a big fight and I wanted him out of the house for good. He had claimed to be clean but I knew better and I did not want that mess anywhere near my home. I yelled and threw things. I cussed at him. It was awful. But in my mind I was justified because look at all he had done.
I walked inside, sat down at my vanity to get ready for work and was so wound up I grabbed my Bible and asked God to show me something I needed at that moment.
“Proverbs 21:19- Better to dwell in the wilderness,Than with a contentious and angry woman.”
I could not believe it! In all of that the Lord was telling me that I had some problems to work out!
Over the next few years God did a complete overhaul on me and everything I had ever known. It was painful to know that my words and actions were so displeasing to the Lord and I had no idea because I was so blinded by the things my husband was doing I couldn’t see my own mistakes.
How often do we do any of the things that describe a contentious wife? I don’t believe we set out to be that way, but the things we go through in life, when we don’t know any better, form protective shields that we think are good for us.
God is our protector and our vindicator. He will always take care of us and will always turn all situations around for our good.
Is She You?
Are you a nagging and argumentative wife or woman? Are you frequently critical of people and situations and feel you usually know what they need to do to fix it? Does it often seem like others cause you problems most of the time? Do you find yourself needing to have the last word?
God can help you. You do not have to and should not try to change on your own. Seek God and He will help you step by step. First by recognizing what the problem is and how to start fixing it. Knowing there is something wrong and being willing to change is the first step.
Proverbs 19:13-14, Proverbs 21:19, Galatians 5:22-23
**Lord, I pray and ask that You forgive me if I have been that contentious wife/woman. Please reveal to me the things I need to change and where I need to begin. Lord, I cannot do this without Your help. I ask that You keep a watchman at my mouth that I might not sin against You. I pray that the meditation of my heart and the words of my mouth be pleasing and acceptable to You Lord. In Jesus name I pray, Amen, **
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